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Bob Lyons said:

Coaches do need to engage with parents in regard to general issues, but parents being too close to sessions is very disruptive. This comment from your blog sums it up - "If parents are too involved at training, the child will look for guidance and reassurance from the sideline as opposed to focussing and listening to the coach."

07/08/18
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Nick
Nick Kershaw said:

I personally do not mind parents attending archery sessions. Sometimes they are a positive influence, other times they can be downright dangerous. I do enjoy it when parents are watching and congratulate their kids on doing well. The kids are happy to show off their skills with a bow, I have to admit that I enjoy competitive parents getting lower scores than their kids ..

I had been coaching two young boys, concentrating on getting their hands and arms in the right positions to hold the bow, draw the string and release the string in a basic way but in a much safer way and method than they had been when they came to me.
I had them holding the riser properly and with their arm in the right position. I had to leave the sports hall for ten minutes and left the family under the supervision of an experienced archer.
When I returned the archer was assisting #1 and the father was busily undoing all my previous work with #2. As I was explaining to the parents why I didn't allow parents to handle my kit, the assisting archer took #2 to the shooting line and ... #2 managed to somehow get the string caught between his wrist and the front of the arm guard (bracer) he had been wearing resulting in an ice pack on his wrist. (We insist that all children use a full length arm guard for safety reasons ) Probably holding the riser like dad said to !!!!

One of the first things parents get now is a full extended safety briefing, not just on the fire exits, emergency actions, this is now a standard briefing. They have to stay in the area set aside for spectators and they also get a parents code of practice, including a welcome to the club letter detailing how we expect parents to behave!!!
I don't know of any parent that hasn't appreciated the information. Now if they want to help they can join the club as a non;-shooting member and help with the club.

07/08/18
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Coach_Browning

This post reminds me of one of my favourite videos...talking about parents coaching from the stands

https://youtu.be/Dki7xQXmYLk

20/08/18
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Coach_Browning

In general though, I dont coach this age group, but I am on the other side of the fence as my eldest (8) plays football, tennis and has now started rugby. I will admit that this sort of thing has made me think.

I do consciously try to make an effort to stay in the background. For football there is really nowhere else to go and we have to be by them. But we try to stand back a bit and give the team some space, chat amongst ourselves. The coaches were really good as well. They have laid out the sort of behaviour that they want from us as parents. Indicated what we can and can not do during games for example. They have also done a good job of letting us know what they are trying to do with the kids - their focuses etc... - so we are aware of what they are trying to do.

As parents, I think that we can sometimes get caught up in the product rather than the process. A player makes a "mistake" and all we see is that rather than what they were trying to do. So letting us know what they are working on helps us to understand what the kids are trying to do.

Saying that though - one thing I have never really thought of. And I guess it is the most obvious one. What does my lad think? What does he want? I had better go ask him!!

20/08/18
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Nick
Nick Kershaw said:

There are a few things I need to add to this.

Our Club now has a Parent/ Club Agreement that lays out the expected behavior of parents attending the club and also events outside the club, their behavior at events reflects on the club even if they aren't competing for the club.

My son plays for a cricket team and as they are all younger kids we have an indoor winter league. It's great fun but can get really intense at times. We have had people stay and watch that were just passing the spectators area and say how exciting it is.
At some of the "close call" matches, like two balls to bowl and four runs ,..Well the parents are on their feet shouting and clapping .. The point is all these parents from both teams are encouraging the kids, after the match, at lunch breaks, at the presentation these same parents talk about both teams players who played well. It is a really family atmosphere, kids from the teams talk to each other about the missed balls, the fumbled catches the good catches .

Hopefully we are going to get one of the winter matches filmed live.

06/09/18
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